And so, life isn’t happening ‘TO US’, it’s happening ‘FOR US’…
“Someone I loved once gave me a box full of darkness. It took me years to understand that this too, was a gift” – Mary Oliver
Recently, I sat down with a few friends to discuss my new project – Lioness Awaken and the question on everyone’s lips was… what does it mean to be a Lioness?
What does it mean to be a Lioness?
Now I look back on it, I must admit that for most of my life. I was in a deep slumber; I was in a trance, I was fantasizing and daydreaming. Hopeless and deranged. Well, not deranged LOL. But, what I am trying to say is, I felt lost. I felt this emptiness that I couldn’t describe in words. I felt hopeless and creatively frustrated and I thought I was the only one.
Every time, I would visualise my future, all I saw was a black cloud. A black cloud of hopelessness. And no, I’m not describing some voodoo or magic trick.
I remember every time I would go into an interview and the interviewer would ask me, where do you see yourself in 5 years’ time. I would lie and make up something like – I would like to be the Head of Marketing.
But one day I slipped up and told the truth or what I thought was a lie. 4 years ago, I was being interviewed for a marketing role and the interviewed said, what would you like to be in 5 years and I replied a LIFE COACH.
Life, what. I didn’t even know what the heck a life coach was. Needless to say, I got the marketing role lol. But I didn’t take the job and neither did I explore life coaching. At the time, I didn’t know what coaching was. It was certainly a FREUDIAN SLIP and my subconscious was doing the talking.
So, I continued towards my path of hopelessness and tried anything and everything
I ran so many businesses; you name it, I’ve done it. I guess you can call me a serial entrepreneur; from running a hair extensions business to a hair & skincare business to finally a marketing agency, which is when I knew I was really lost as I had no interest in running an agency let alone a marketing agency.
With each business or blog, I’d started nothing stuck. Nothing felt authentic. I knew deep in my heart that I was going in the wrong direction but I didn’t know how to redirect myself towards my true path.
I didn’t realise, what I was searching for was within me.
I didn’t realise what I needed in my life was a coach, to help me discover my purpose and to ask me the hard-hitting questions that no one else dared.
But, in 2016, something insane happened to me.
I went through an awful breakup with a guy that I thought was my soulmate and then a month after, my dog of two years died and then I fell into a black hole of hopelessness.
At that time, I had taken a break from my career in Marketing so I was suffering not only from a bad breakup but a dead dog and I knew I was in the wrong career.
I was literally confused about my life
Then one day, I listened to a motivational talk by Victoria Osteen and she made me realise I could turn my life around.
Her talk gave me an idea of creating a platform of positivity to encourage women, to empower them and to send them daily reminders of their self-worth.
That very day, I thought of creating an app or a watch that would send daily reminders to women to remind them of their power.
Months after her talk, I picked up a journal and the book Think and Grow Rich by Napoleon Hill and I started writing what I thought my purpose was, which led me to discover my purpose.
Then, I started attending self-development workshops and doing some personal development work, which transformed my life.
In August 2016, I remember writing ‘My purpose is to inspire, empower and motivate people to success.’
I remember recording those words as a voice note on my phone ‘My purpose is to inspire, empower and motivate people to success.’
The fascinating thing is that it took me having several breakdowns before I finally had my breakthrough.
So many times, we try and run away from our problems yet we fail to realise that confrontation often leads to our breakthrough.
You need to confront your shadow…
“Truth is, you must confront your past to understand your future because somewhere in the darkness of your past, lies your future” – The Lioness
We tend to tell ourselves that WE ARE OKAY.
We tell our friends that WE ARE FINE.
We tell our parents that we are DOING GREAT.
But what we really want to say is ‘my life is falling APART’. I’m not sure what my PURPOSE is. I don’t know where my LIFE is going. My career is heading SOUTH. My relationship is a total MESS. I feel LOST. I am LOST.
We fail to tell ourselves the truth. We fail to be authentic with ourselves and with others and so, we hide behind Instagram creating false narratives, telling the whole world that WE ARE FINE.
But here’s the truth. At some point, we are ALL going to have to be honest with ourselves. At some point, we are going to have to look in the mirror and admit that we are a LITTLE LOST and that’s okay.
This is where Lioness Awaken steps in
So, I think it’s time we start to tell our truths.
I think it’s time we start to tell our authentic stories.
I think it’s time, for us to confront and step out of our shadows.
I think it’s time for the Lioness within us to Awaken.
I started this project, Lioness Awaken to coach women and (men) to help them to harness their inner power, listen to their inner voice, set powerful goals and take action.
I see myself as a Lioness
I was placed on this earth to do damage, to shake things up and to elevate others.
I was put here on this earth to coach people to realise their power and discover their true potential.
Are you a Lioness? And are you awake?
Love – The Lioness